Thank you to the special ladies who responded with support. The event that happened was a long time ago (I was 18, now 23), and my life has transformed in so many ways, emotionally, mentally and sexually. I would not say this person will ever present a physical threat, but seeing him back around is just super triggering. I’m breathing a bit easier and feel ready now, and will follow my gut of whatever will lead me to positive mental health safety if I am ever put into a confrontational situation. So far, so much solidarity, and I thank you(1 week ago) 1 note
hey so I have a serious question, plz help.
so I keep seeing pictures of this terrible man resurfacing in our scene. and he had exnay’d himself for awhile because he was just a terrible person, like a real mysoginistic son of a bitch, and when he started tagging over murals in our community, he got found out ;) but now he is coming back with people who don’t know about him and I’m just so terrified of the moment he is around me. What do I do?
I mean, this is the person who took my virginity even though I kept saying no over and over. And he tricked me. He told me he had feelings for me, he promised what I had always wished for - a partner. So I gave in and the next day he called me a bitch and told everyone I forced him to have sex with me. Though that wasn’t even close to true. My friends watched him jump onto me and start making out with me and ripping at my clothes. Though I was initially not even interested. But I became quickly interested because the desperation of being fat and alone fucks with your mind.
And for so long I asked everyone to be his friend still. Because I hoped that his promise was still true. That he actually really liked me, and that he didn’t just use me as a New Year’s Eve rebound because his gf dumped him on Xmas. I really couldn’t come to terms with it till I figured out that the next day, when we went to go buy Plan B (and he at first wasn’t down to split costs) that the bike parts he was looking at buying were for his ex. That he could have cared less that he had taken my virginity while being unprotected. That that was scary for me. And lonely feeling.
So what do I do? Do I spit in his face? Do I tell him to go the fuck away, that he isn’t welcome around me? That I deserve space? Do I hit him? Do I say nothing? What do I do if and when the time ever comes?
Help.(1 week ago) 6 notes